Monday, August 6, 2007

The Unruly Delhi Girls

Fastidious,head strong, cunning, loud mouthed, groovy....Don't worry I'm not trying to remember different words from the dictionary. These words and more ( I can line up a long que!) are ideally used as synonimous with ' delhi girls'. Chances are if you belong to some state other than Delhi you too might have at times associated one of such words or a host of them with delhi chicks( yup..chicks is universally referred to girls but delhi girls have got the privilidge to be solely called as chicks too.).

What inspired me to write a blog was an account that transpired a few days ago. One my of close guy buddies who was looking ...well dishearted finally confessed that his girl friend of barely a year or so is doubting uhumm... my relations with him.

The disheartened guy " yaar...she thinks there is something going on between us. I have tried explaining things to her but to no avail."

Me, completly taken aback, yet trying to act like an agony aunt " oh! why! Didn't you tell her that I'm in a serious relationship for over 3 years now...I'm as good as married for heaven sake! " All right...the line " im almost married" was clearly an exaggeration but 3 years is not a small time frame. Isn't it illogical to doubt someone whose in a long distance relationship thats lasted an eternity? Even if its a long distance relationship?

Anyways, the disheartened guy " I did tell her all that...but....."

Me, now curious more than anything " What did she have to say to that? She doesn't believe that I'm in a relationship or what?"

The disheartened guy " Well...its not that...its just...let it be..."

Me, curiosity taking its toll on me now " Come out with it.Tell me now."

Finally after a round of coaxing that seemed to last till eternity he says" Well she says that she trusts me but not you.She says she doesn't trust 'DELHI GIRLS'."

Well what in the name of the lord did she mean by that! Temper rising inside me as if I was slowly transforming into a lioness...the sharp teeth are on...next comes the edgey claws and voiola! I'm ready to make the kill!

Well I didn't say anything to my already disheartened friend about his disillusioned girl friend. But that really did got me thinking. I have come across couple of other situations where people seem to generalise the 'delhi girls' as being fastidious, clever, cunning and what not! True there are girls like that in delhi...but then aren't these girls in other parts of India too. Fine there number might be more in Delhi but there is a reason for it.

The reason is the society, the people around us and thE way they behave. Delhi girls are judged on everything starting from the way they dress up to the way they speak english to the way they walk to the way they are open about their views to making male friends. If you happen to be a delhi girl and for some unfortunate reason had to visit some other state...god forbid! All my sympathies with you ladies! They are metted out same behavious as is given to foreigners...dupe them, use them and throw them like paper napkins. Thats what the general perception is about them. I think it has got more to do with the fact that they reside in a metropolitan than residing in Delhi.

Did I hear someone say Unity in diversity? Bullshit! When people can't even treat the female crowd belonging to the capitla of the country as equals, who are they to talk about unity?

The way we, the Delhi girls are is due to the exposure of western culture here...No not the exposure to the girls but to the men folk out here. It is difficult for a girl to be docile, meek and submissive ...in short be the haanji ma ji kinds!.... if they want to survive in a state like delhi.

Ever bothered to check the number of rape cases in the capital? Ever faced the ongoing eve teasing while travelling in buses or for that matter even while standing in the balcony of your own house? Life for 'Delhi girls' is not easy. It's about survival of the fittest. You gotta roar to shu away the unwanted people who are there only to create bad news for you.

Anyways whats wrong with the way the delhi girls are? People ( or should i say MCP's...male chuvinistic pigs!) seem to think that they are not lady like. How can you expect a delhi girl to behave like a chandigarh's behnji when the scenario in delhi is completely different and Anywyas who has given the meaning to the word 'lady'? One of my friends have raised 'the lady issue' in her blogs too. I quiet agree with her. If standing up for her rights or speaking her mind is not considered lady like...then be it. I'm elated to be called unlady like!( Though my male friends beg to disagree on this one!)

Delhi Girls...you rock! Keep up the unruly, unladky like behavior!

34 comments:

rk rishikesh sinha said...

i read your post. Well, frankly speaking i had with diffrent perception started reading your post. But very early it turned out to be different. Very personal.

Let me admit - your's friend GF doubting on you is natural, very much to do with chemistry involved between couples. Here reference to delhi girls does not arise. I suppose, one big mistake (say)she did is by ganeralising - Delhi girls. Dont you think the tag or say identification parade of being a Delhi Girl is very stylish, ...musical, full of belongingness to the capital of India. It is a privilege. They must feel and say ....yeahh, I am from Delhi and they must flaunt the tag - Delhi Girls.

Not in any part of India, girls are being referred by the city. And even if they the hullaballoo is not there.

You were right in saying the atmosphere doesnot allow here in delhi to remain haanji type. It is lot to do with male chauvinatic behaviour in the north.

BUt any way Delhi girl seems an informal association of thsose girls who feel and they have the gene of being a delhi girl. I love it. I love DELHI GIRLS.

satan' queen said...

lolz...first of I'm sure the delhi girls would be very flattered by the last line of your comment.

Honestly, every single time i have heard people use 'the delhi girls' title, they used it in a derrogatory way.

There were couple of other such isntances which i wanted to put across but as must have noticed the post has already almost exceeded the word limit!

Let me give one here... people belonging to different states kind of fear getting their son married to a 'delhi girl'. Reason being- their blocked perception about them.

You are true that we should flaunt the tag..but its the way people refer to the very title delhi girls which is extremely derrogatory.

p.s- interesting observation-"Not in any part of India, girls are being referred by the city."

satan' queen said...

O and by the way...I think my friends GF doubting me has a lot to do with me being a 'delhi girl' and her reason for doubting him has a lot to do with her not trusting him enough! :)

vindhyavasini said...

me & my friend(currently in Bombay) were talking about girls in gurgaon(delhi) and bombay. he told me "mumbai girls itana bhaw nahin khati" (all he mean u don't have to put a lot of efforts to talk to them)... well i will say its not a good idea to generalize these sentences according to cities, u will find all kinds of girls/guys everywhere.. coming from a small city like allahabad, u will definitely like this place and of course "delhi girls" but thats applicable only when u have the kind of mentality to express urself, if u dare to feel ur freedom no matter what others think, only then u will be able to appreciate "delhi girls"... anyway nice writing, u have definitely inherited an amazing skill..

M A D said...

well it is same for every delhi girl who is in another state.. even in pune(oxford of the east- i mention it to remind myself that i m here for studies only). people hv same thinking for delhi gals.. lolzzz

but your narration for them is too good..

suarrr said...

franky, when i started reading the post, i thought that i would have to go through another of the same irritating post as i have read of many people sayin that delhiites are this n that.. but this one, was totally different..

and im totally convinced.
keep writin..

Jayasri said...

Het satan Queen,

1) I still dont believe that this hapenned...Me shocked!!

2) My Sympathies to your friend who fell for a narrow minded nad biased...ehemm...sweetheart!!!

As a Delhi born and raised Tambrahm, I can totally and personally identify with your voice against bias, specially the second half of the post...Yes, Unbelieveble but true, the "Delhi girls" tag hasnt left many of us..Though I love that tag for myself, it is used quite unrespectful fashion..For God's sake, Delhi has a metropolitan culture..Unlike other states, it does not possess any dominating native culture. Even though we have more important issues to tackle, yet this topic cant be left unseen.

P.S...I would personally love to meet your friend's sweetheart!!!

bhavana said...

trust me babes...we cn write a buk on it..
stereotypical nature is is jst a red carpet used to dust all d dirt underneath....
jst pollute our heart and soul........

Vinodh said...

nice post!anyone reading the post will be convinced..
n we must try to get back this unity in diversity bullshit back..its not fair to name people by their towns...


i like your style of writing very much..
keep blogging!:)

AG said...

to set the mood light...can remember of one very true line "aurat ki sabse badi dushman aurat hi hoti hai"...lol

Cheers
ANkIT

Anonymous said...

"Anyways whats wrong with the way the delhi girls are? People ( or should i say MCP's...male chuvinistic pigs!) seem to think that they are not lady like."

well to be fair, more often than not, it is a woman making assumptions about 'delhi girls' or girls of any kind.

think about it.

What's In A Name ? said...

Glad to know somebody felt like addressing the 'delhi girl' issue. Coming from an insider...it more welcome!

namit said...

ahem..i feel i am about to give a speech. ;)
well, for a start u gt ur right fundamental right of expressing ur view which u have used brilliantly ..kudos
why do we actually go through a trouble of explaining situations to everybody ...DELHI GIRLS are not answerable to nebody for whatever they do..so there is no point telling ppl what u think ..u gt ur own minds to analyze and react and Delhi girlz are doing just that. :)

Just a question was this entry which is no doubt brilliantly written and creatively portrayed (impressed ) a vent for anger ( too bad u didnt get to use ur claws :P)

Just one feedback Chandigarh grls are not that bad.... again this perception could be biased..i have my fundamental rights.

nice writing ...keep it up

Invincible said...

nice post..

Vinay said...

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satan' queen said...

Thanks guys for your positive comments...serves as my daily dose of inspiration n motivation. Cheers!
p.s- I will try to be more regular with posts now! Thanks once again!

Enigma said...

hi...i see that you have written about the today's delhi girl or something which is more contextual to the present...well i would like to tell you..tht currenty i am doing a study on the blogging culture among the youth in Delhi.
I wanted to know about wht is it that the "young" ppl want to write abt and perhaps read abt...
and most importantly..if these blogs are available in print format..will yu be as interested to write..and also read other young counterparts' views on contemporary issues such as...changing face of delhi, urban politics, movies, sports, fashion etc.
Kindly help me out wid my study..

Ankit Nagori

Unknown said...

Yeah, fully agreed that you need to roar to keep the vultures away, but there is that thin line that separates a common guy from a potential eve-teaser or rapist (in extreme scenario). Contrastingly, there are lot of innocent souls, which do suffer when these girls of new era or Delhi girls (in your very own way) gave that nearly killing hawk look to make them shiver, as if they have got those X-ray empowered eyes to see beyond clothes or they are thinking something dirty. I might sound bit awful, but I totally agree with you that you have to have that kind of attitude in this tough city (already earned many bad names or stinking notoriety because of the consistent rise in rape cases). But, please spare those innocent souls who are just like your guy next door. Over the years, Delhi girls have really come a long way, as they have learned the art of surviving in this ever-changing society, but now they should also learn to distinguish between a good guy and a bad guy. And, as you have already showered Delhi girls with your imposing praises, we can really expect that from them. AMEN!

satan' queen said...

Totally agree with you dexter...one has to learn to discriminate between a good guy and a bad one. It can be a little difficult keeping in mind how sharp and cunning the bad ones can be but nonetheless the good ones should not have to bear the brunt of it. I'm hoping the delhi girls are listening...wake up girls! Take notice! Abuses for later!
;)

SUMiT said...

dat was cool...quite impressive style of writing...keep it up!!

Aarthi said...
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Aarthi said...

hey tht was really a good shot on ppl who generalise...esp abt women...good work btw

S. said...

man!!!

ummm...hmmm..

I don't think I sould have commented on this post of yours, for the sole reason that I. am one of those who actually hav stereotyped Delhi gilrs as the cunning beauty.

But hey, Exceptions are always there.. And even u know that every coin has two sides, don't u?

satan' queen said...

hmmm..agree that every coin has two sides...n every one has the right to have their own ideas n perceptions...this is the sole reason that I'm not pouncing on your throat! lolz..justtt kiddding!

Generalising is human nature...me not coming in the category of humans took the liberty to write this post! ;)

satan' queen said...

By the way...its great that you are actually being honest...n have the courage to admit that you make the same mistake...it is a mistake..coz every state is full of wierdos and just on the basis of a few moth eaters( ah! new phrase n i luv it!) we can't label others too.
but kudos to u for being honest n gutsy!

S. said...

hmmm....

on that ote.Blogrolled u..and added u on Gtalk..
we shuld rather share are thoughts thr..
:P
Blogosphere is too common a place for that, don't u think?

kyamaloom said...

i hav been dealin wid one since past some months and thus now i truly agree wid ur post..lol

nice work..;)

Anonymous said...

cool,got a delhi gal's perspective on delhi's gals. but, i kind of find them very amusing, a thing of immense contemplation. i can be termed as a male chauvinist(which i am not), actually i am a feminist(which most gals don't accept) but still.....do check out my blog entry " DELHI TIMES: A page from the diary of a first time visitor" @ www.sangramdrishti.blogspot.com

mayank said...

nice post devika :)

Anonymous said...

That was a interesting read.

But you know, forming opinions about things and saving them in our memories is what all of us do. One cannot test every belief constantly. The cup is steaming. It was hot the last time. Should i dip my hand to check again?

So about delhi girls, well im a small town guy. I think the whole region as somewhat rude. I dont think delhi being a badass place is a good enough excuse for girls to be like what the non-delhiites think of them to be. You are justifying their(Del gals) beliefs. Im a bihari by origin(ha! did a bell just ring?). And i have had chat with delhi girls, it was not a great experience. They seemed to shallow. Okay so that was just me. What about my other friends who studied out there, we listen to their stories of a land, not far away, where men and women f*** like rabbits. You might call is western influence, i might just call it lack of morality.

"Dilli mein rehke girlfriend nahi, ho hi nahi sakta"
Forget about girls(im small town guy) im yet to find a GUY who is of the same frequency, i find this whole love affair things, spreading out from metros in the name of modernity, simply pathetic. I cant identify myself with MTV roadies, these Mahesh bhat movies. They say this india lies in a land not far away... but its just me, a small town guy responding to a delhi girls thoughts.

Anonymous said...

lol
So now with race, caste. creed, religion, ethinicity And nationahood etc and other discriminations, city-dwelling discrimination is also rising up..

hmm collectivism aquires its root so easily.

Anonymous said...

oh we've had that all along. And its a word I share a love-hate-laugh relationship, in hindi "shetravAd" :D

Faisal Abbas said...

hey....gud post....for some reason...i feel u havent hit upon the right content to let ur writing truly sparkle...not saying the post was bad...but i guess there's a lot more clever wordplay, humour and style u cud put....still, thnks for letting me knw more abt delhi girls and the prejudices against them...i had no idea!

Anonymous said...

Interesting to know.